23 Things I've Learned in 23 Years
I turned 23 this March. For some reason, it sounds a lot for me. I finally have the feeling I caught that train where everyone is becoming sadder and sadder on their birthdays. But let’s avoid the depressing part and quickly skip to some of my thoughts, life lessons I have learned through these years and maybe I'll even give you some advice on life in general. These are only my thoughts and my thoughts only so feel free to take whatever you might need and forget all the rest.
1. Not all dreams are meant to be fulfilled
Very few of my friends know that once I wanted to be a model so bad I actually went to a modeling school for 3 months. I really thought I could be a legit model even though I went to McDonald's after every single lesson. No punchline needed. This was a very clear example of how dreams sometimes should stay as dreams.
2. It’s more than ok to be a quitter
And you don’t even have to feel bad about it. Whether you quit your diet on day 2 or you get your gym subscription but you never go more that once, it’s totally ok. I promise. One thing I have learned over the years is that I can’t change the fact that I am a quitter. But I can make myself quit a little later. The key to quitting a little later is easy – just set realistic goals in the very beginning. Or don’t set goals at all! #lifehack
3. Look at yourself before and during the shopping
I forget about this too often. And that is the reason why my closet is full of things that looked good on the mannequin and look ridiculous on me. Crop tops for example.
4. Smoking is not cool.
Unless my mom lied to me and actually it is cool then…shit.
5. The most dangerous of them all: FOMO
For a really long time, I thought I have to be friends with everyone. I felt a very strong need to spend time with people I didn’t even like. I guess I had a very strong FOMO ( a.k.a. the fear of missing out). But only recently I realized how stupid that was because it is not possible to be everywhere and to experience everything. So day by day I tried to lower my FOMO levels and now I think it is way too low. At this point, I barely can find any reason to leave my house. Moral of the story? Don't be like me. Keep your level at a medium. Go out once in a while. See daylight.
6. Always take that extra layer.
I don’t know how it is possible but in my 23 years, I have been cold way too many times. And I always regret leaving those warm socks or jacket at home just because I wanted to look cool. I know, I know. It’s not that I looked cool without it anyways.
7. Money is not the memory maker
It's such a heartwarming feeling when you know you have some money in your bank account, but when I look back at the times I didn’t - I had so much more fun and got so much drunker. Just a reminder: if you don’t have that much money on you, you are probably having the time of your life. Or not. It depends.
8. Just do it. Later.
If you don’t feel like doing it right now – don’t. Most of the time I have done everything in the last minute and somehow I managed to do everything on time. There is no point in rushing through life. Do something useless instead that will make you happy and do the “important” after that.
9. Don’t leave your laptop at the table.
A few years back my apartment got robbed. A lot of stuff got stolen, but most importantly my laptop. Although it was worth maybea a few banana peels, there were a lot of pictures and important documents that I kept on there. So basically they stole my memories. So from that time on, whenever I leave my apartment, I always try to hide my laptop. While writing this down I realize that maybe it would be a better solution if I just printed the pictures out, because sometimes I can’t find my hidden laptop and that would totally solve this problem. Thanks, me.
10. Leave calorie counting for mathematicians
If you start counting your calories, that will be the only thing you will do that day.
11. Don’t take everything too seriously.
Take perspective. What is so important today will look meaningless tomorrow. So don’t stress over little things. Note: I’m sill learning to do this.
12. Don’t take anyone’s advice.
Unless it’s like a test at school and you didn’t study that much, because of my previous point on leaving everything for later. But if we talk abut life – no one knows anything. Some of us pretend better than others, but at the end of the day, we are all just people. Every one of us is scared of spiders and cries themselves to sleep every night. No one knows what is right or wrong, so when it comes to making life-changing decisions – rely only on yourself.
13. Learn to say no. Or at least a strong maybe.
14. Sometimes the best company is your own company.
This is so true for the most of the time. So I suggest you spend some time with yourself. Do what you like the most. Eat. Sleep. Embrace that double chin.
15. Don’t wear outfits that make you feel uncomfortable.
Sometimes it is not too tight or something, but you just don’t feel it. You know? I try to avoid clothing that I don't feel good in because it can ruin my whole day. Maybe that is why most of the time I wear the same outfit over and over again. And yes, that outfit is sweatpants and sweatshirts.
16. This goes out for everyone who wears makeup.
Don’t ever try out the new foundation on a work day. Just don’t. In the best case scenario it might be good, but if not, you might walk around all day just looking like a cheesy Cheeto as I once did. Test it out at home just for safety reasons.
17. Write diaries.
It will be funny. It will be embarrassing. I have been writing my personal diaries since I remember myself and whenever my ego is rising just a little bit I start reading them.
18. Yes, it is your face.
Get used to it. Accept it. It won't somehow magically get better. I know, I hoped so too. Also, don’t get mad if someone is not a fan of it. It’s cool. I know a good place where they sell voodoo dolls. Just stab them later with a needle. But in the meantime, it’s fine, really. If everything else fails – make funny faces and show that beautiful double chin to the world. Someone sure will appreciate it.
19. Everything makes sense.
Even if it doesn’t at first, it will. Simple, yet what the f? My boy Steve Jobs called this: Connecting the dots. Google it.
20. No room for cringy stuff
Throw out everything that reminds you of bad times and events. No, it won't change over years and it will only make you feel bad every time you look at it.
21. Call your parents
While you can.
22. Trust your gut.
If you think you can eat it, you probably can. Otherwise, later you might regret that you didn’t. Oh and sure, this can apply to other things in life, too. I guess.
23. Don’t be a hater.
Just. Please. Give us some slack. Every one of us is trying to look like we have our lives together when we actually don’t and your hating is not really helping. We have to understand that everyone is struggling with something. Whether it is depression or just holding in a fart in a public place. It is not that easy either way. Let’s be understanding and hate a little less every day.